Q&A Radio: 23 November 2014, Question 3
I answered a question on ungrateful people on 23 November 2014. You can listen to or download the podcast of just this question below – or check out the whole episode of Philosophy in Action Radio.
Why aren't people grateful for what others do for them? I volunteer a lot, and I try to be very generous with my time and efforts in the groups that I'm involved with. Mostly, I just want people to express thanks and gratitude for what I've done for them. Mostly though, they don't thank me – or their thanks just seem perfunctory. Why is that? Am I wrong to want a little gratitude? Right now, I feel taken advantage of, and I want to tell everyone to go to hell. Is that wrong?
My Answer, In Brief: When you're volunteering or helping others, you must have self-interested motives – whether learning something new, developing your skills, or accomplishing something meaningful to yourself. Thanks and gratitude from others can only be a bonus. If it's a primary motivation, you'll always feel taken advantage of. If that happens, find something more personally meaningful to do with your time!
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