Hatred for a Friend's Husband
Radio Q&A: 19 August 2012, Question 4
I answered a question on hatred for a friend's husband on 19 August 2012. You can listen to or download the podcast of just this question below – or check out the whole episode of Philosophy in Action Radio.
Should I spend time with a friend and her husband if I can't stand him? A friend of mine is married to a man with the same views of love and marriage as Jim Taggart. He is of no value to me, and I hate being in his presence. My friend invites me to spend time with the two of them and other friends of hers. Should I decline the invitations so that I do not grant her husband any undeserved attention or friendliness? Or should I accept so that I can see my friend? To do the latter feels like insulting my friend and betraying my own values.
My Answer, In Brief: As much as you might dislike him, your friend has chosen to marry and stay with this man – and that reveals much about her values. Socialize with her separately, but don't attempt to drive a wedge between them.
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