The Delicious New Webcast Questions

 Posted by on 26 January 2011 at 8:00 am  Announcements
Jan 262011

I’ve been thrilled with the increasing quality and quantity of questions that I’m getting for my Rationally Selfish Webcast. For example:

  • Is it moral to have a sugarmomma or sugardaddy? My fiancee and I both have demanding careers, but she earns several times more than I. How should a married couple with very different incomes share income and/or expenses? If we agree to split household expenses evenly, my lower income is a significant constraint on her enjoyment, e.g., she can’t buy an expensive house because I can’t afford half of it. On the other hand, if we split expenses unevenly or if we treat all income as pooled, it seems that I’m benefiting lavishly from things I didn’t produce. Is it moral for me to enjoy an expensive hobby which I couldn’t have afforded on my own? I’d love to hear more about how you and Paul manage income and expenses, and especially what ethical principles apply.
  • At what point is a compromise in a relationship irrational? Couples can reach a point where one of them wants something that is mutually exclusive from what the other wants (To move, to have children, to do something sexually), and it becomes a make-or-break moment: either the curtains go, or I do. So to speak. But when is a spouse’s refusal to accept a change irrational? At what point is it no longer something one must learn to deal with, but instead must break up with the other person over? And if it hasn’t yet crossed over into the break-up point, how can one reach a suitable compromise, when the choices are, or seem, mutually exclusive?
  • I have an object in my possession that I stole almost 20 years ago. Finding the rightful owner and returning it is impossible. What should I do? I once lived in a large, very old apartment building, with a bike room in the basement, where residents were supposed to keep their bicycles. The room was virtually unused, as residents tended to keep theirs in their apartments. There were many dusty old unused bikes in there. I cut the lock off one, got new tires for it (the old ones were flat and brittle) and used it frequently while I lived there. I rationalized that a) it was probably abandoned (although I didn’t know that, really) and b) the owner was always free to call security, have my lock cut off, and reclaim his bike. When I moved away, a couple years later, I kept the bike. Clearly I shouldn’t have done so, and I would never do such a thing today. Should I just donate the bike to charity and move on? This is really bothering me.
  • What’s the difference between a good friendship and an emotional affair? Where do you draw the line between having a good friendship and an “emotional affair”?

All of those questions are waiting in the queue for votes. And I love them! I can’t wait to answer them! If you’d like me to answer them sooner rather than later, please push them up the queue by voting for them. You can also peruse the whole slew of pending questions.

Notably… Lately, I’ve been posting summaries and links to new questions to my Facebook account. However, I’ve started to post many of them only to the the Facebook page for the Rationally Selfish Webcast. So if you want to see these new questions in your Facebook news feed, then please “like” that page. You can do so here:

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