Lying for the Sake of a Happy Surprise
Q&A Radio: Sunday, 23 June 2013, Question 2
I answered a question on lying for the sake of a happy surprise on Philosophy in Action Radio on 23 June 2013. You can listen to or download the podcast segment below – or check out the whole episode.
Is it ever okay to tell a lie as part of a happy surprise for someone else? This question is from Ryan (age 11) and Morgan (age 8). We bought birthday presents for our brother Sean, and we had to sneak them into the house. We didn't want Sean to know what we were doing. At first, we thought we should make up a story about why we were going back and forth to the car. Morgan thought she should tell Sean she was going outside to swing. But then we talked about how that would be a lie and she decided to go out and actually swing before bringing her present inside, that way there was no lying involved. Should we have told the lie to Sean? Is it okay to tell a lie as part of doing something nice for someone?
My Answer, In Brief: It's hugely important to be honest in our relations with other people, but some lying is justified to pull off a surprise party for a person who would enjoy it. Beware telling mere technical truths, however, as they're often more dishonest than outright lies.
Tags: Benevolence, Ethics, Honesty, Relationships, Surprise, Trust
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