Obsessing over Past Conversations
Q&A Radio: 30 November 2014, Question 3
I answered a question on obsessing over past conversations on 30 November 2014. You can listen to or download the podcast of just this question below – or check out the whole episode of Philosophy in Action Radio.
How can I stop obsessing over past conversations? After having a conversation with someone, I often obsess about what I said to them and the way that I said it. I think about they ways they could have misinterpreted what I meant, and I worry that they thought I was being rude or disrespectful. Most of the time, of course, whatever nuances I thought would offend them were either non-existent or just went straight over their head. How can I overcome this obsessiveness, while still maintaining a healthy level of concern for how what I say may be interpreted?
My Answer, In Brief: It's not healthy to obsess over past conversations, and you can help your brain overcome that tendency by noticing when you do it, seeking out objective feedback, and more. If you can't do it alone, seek therapy.
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