The Aftermath of a Friendship
Q&A Radio: 7 April 2013, Question 3
I answered a question on the aftermath of a friendship on 7 April 2013. You can listen to or download the podcast of just this question below – or check out the whole episode of Philosophy in Action Radio.
What's the proper response to the dissolution of a friendship within a social group? I loved your your May 6th, 2012 discussion of "unforgivable acts," and I have a follow-up question. Now – after cutting my losses with a best friend, after years of giving second chances, talking with him repeatedly, and determining that there's no more basis for a friendship – how do I judge mutual friends of ours? Some of them think that my actions weren't justified. Some resent me for breaking up a group of friends. Many want me to either make up with this person or tolerate him at gatherings. Is this reaction by these mutual friends fair? How should I respond to them?
My Answer, In Brief: Often, such problems have no easy solution, but you'll be better off if you explain as much as you can of the facts and your feelings, set reasonable limits as to interaction with this former friend, and work to keep up the friendships.
Tags: Communication, Friendship, Justice, Moral Wrongs, Relationships
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