Sex When Not in the Mood
Q&A Radio: Sunday, 21 July 2013, Question 2
I answered a question on sex when not in the mood on Philosophy in Action Radio on 21 July 2013. You can listen to or download the podcast segment below – or check out the whole episode.
Is it wrong to have sex when you're not in the mood? Assume that you're in a long-term romantic relationship with another person. You are not always going to feel the desire to have sex. If your lover wants sex, is it wrong to have sex? Might you have sex anyway, perhaps because you want to do something nice for your lover - perhaps in the hope that your lover might do the same for you later? Many people seem uncomfortable with sex under those circumstances, i.e. absent a strong physical desire. Some think that having sex even if not in the mood isn't right: it's degrading and might lead to resentment. Others claim that if you're truly in love, then your physical desires will fall into line. Hence, if you don't want to have sex, you might not really be in love - or you might have other philosophical or psychological problems. Which of these views is right?
My Answer, In Brief: Sex should never be a sacrifice, but that doesn't mean that both people have to be desperately wanting it to have great sex.
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