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Conflicts Between Family Members

Radio Q&A: Sunday, 9 September 2012, Question 2

I answered a question on conflicts between family members on Philosophy in Action Radio on 9 September 2012. You can listen to or download the podcast segment below – or check out the whole episode.

How can I stay out of conflicts between family members? When two people you love have competing claims about the facts in a conflict between them, how do not imply that one or the other is lying? My daughter said she told my wife something important. My wife said my daughter didn't say anything about it. How can you react without destroying one or the other's trust? I wasn't there: I can believe or dis-believe either one. But I am forced by each to choose. When I refuse to choose sides, I'm still subjected to being accused of taking the other's side and calling each one a liar. What can I do to make peace, at least with me?

My Answer, In Brief: It's wrong to choose sides in a dispute when you don't know the facts, particularly when the most likely scenario is miscommunication. You should refuse to particpate in any attempts to make you a pawn in this battle between your wife and daughter – even if they protest.

Tags: Communication, Conflict, Ethics, Family, Justice, Manipulation, Parenting, Rationality

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